Whether it’s your first time, second time, or however many, starting a new relationship is always exciting, giving you those warm gooey feelings, but it can make you feel really nervous, too. So, after asking many Sugar Babies and Sugar Daddies for their thoughts, I’ve come up with a few tips for how to get through new mutually beneficial arrangements easily.
We’ve all been there. You’re talking about yourselves and the next thing you know, you’re talking about past relationships. But with sugar relationships this isn’t just awkward. It can be one of the worst things you can do. Unless your potential Sugar Daddy asks you about your previous arrangements, you shouldn’t bring them up. Likewise, most Sugar Babies don’t want to be held up to the standards (high or low) of previous Sugar Babies. If he brings them up, try to gently but firmly redirect the conversation. However, if he’s still stuck on a previous attachment, then he might not be ready to move on with a new Sugar Baby.
If this isn’t your first time, and you’re concerned because of a previous bad experience, do your best to put it behind you. There’s a good chance that a POT Sugar Daddy has, also, had a bad experience, but it would be best to avoid bringing any of that baggage with you to a new arrangement.
Especially if it’s your first time as a Sugar Baby, this one can be a bit hard. With your nerves high and adrenaline pumping. It’s easy to be overwhelmed, but as they say, “fake it till you make it.” Confidence is very sexy in a woman, and especially, in a Sugar Baby. Wealthy older men are looking for someone special that they can take care of and pamper, but that doesn’t mean that they are looking for someone to become a clinging vine. And, of course, you don’t want to be over-confident and cocky. But you should know your value and let that show in your walk, talk, and attitude.
Whether one is a Sugar Baby or a Sugar Daddy, you shouldn’t think put too much stress into the first date. No matter how much you have chatted or texted with someone, you can’t know all of their ins and outs, yet, and they don’t know all about you. So, the first time you go out or become intimate, it can either be really great, kind of meh, or a total disaster. So, for the first time or first few times, just focus on keeping it light and letting things happen as they will.
After the first few dates and once you’ve entered into an official arrangement, you should remember to stay relaxed and not worry too much about holding onto the relationship. If you get too tense or start to get nervous about how to keep your new Sugar Daddy’s attention, it will show and likely come across as desperate. Instead, keep things casual and normal and let things progress naturally. If he’s an experienced older man, you will likely be able to follow his lead in how to progress in the relationship.
You’re first couple of dates shouldn’t be too complicated. The more complicated it is the more room for error there is. If you plan something too elaborate, you’re likely to get too caught up in the details and making sure the mundane details go right than in actually paying attention to your Sugar Daddy. You might start with coffee and a chat or appetizers and drinks. Also, especially, on your first date, it’s better if you leave him wanting more than if you put everything out there up front.
Once you’re into an official mutually beneficial arrangement with a Sugar Daddy, you’ll learn what he likes and what he doesn’t and can work on more elaborate dates and adventures. From time to time, though, you might want to return to simple things, which can be just as special under the right circumstances, especially for someone who is used to be being busy all the time. Sometimes slowing down can be just the thing he never knew he really needed.
There’s more to this than just being able to speak intelligently. You should make sure that you avoid using curse words, swearing, slang, gross topics, or other inappropriate phrases. Also, try to avoid complaining about other people, like insulting waitstaff or commenting on a stranger’s outfit, or bringing up potentially volatile topics of conversation like politics or religion. Try to stick to positive topics that help you get to know each other.
Once you’ve gotten passed the first few dates and into a real relationship, you’ll want to maintain this poise, especially, if he introduces you to friends or social connections. Being able to carry on an intelligent conversation with his peers will earn you points. You might take some time to research his career field or business interests, if it isn’t something you were already interested in pursuing, so that you can ask intelligent questions or comment knowledgeably to add to the conversations you might hear.
If all else fails, the best thing you can do to keep a new relationship going is to ask questions. Ask about his day, ask about his interests, and what you can do for him. And what he’d like you to not do. You don’t want to become annoying or nagging but asking useful questions is your best tool for getting to know your new Sugar Daddy and helping him to get to know his new Sugar Baby.