As a young Sugar Baby, whether you’re just starting out or have been around for a while, you’ve experienced or heard about fake Sugar Daddies, sometimes called Salt Daddies (these are outright fake profiles or scammers) or Splenda Daddies (men who want the sugaring lifestyle but lack the actual capital to pull it off). We’ve talked about how to tell if a Sugar Daddy is a scammer or a fake, but what about the signs that he’s actually a real, true blue Sugar Daddy?
Most men like to claim, “my word is my bond,” and to be successful, a Sugar Daddy has to be able to honor his promises. No one, not even liars, like to accused of lying and will act hurt if you want proof of their sugared and sweet words. If he talks about loving to visit the Italian riviera and has an Italian villa, he should, also, be talking about taking you there. At the very least, he should be able to talk about what he does there, show pictures of himself there, and provide information about what it’s like to visit there. He should probably, also, know a few useful phrases in Italian. If he’s not offering proof of his Italian experiences or asking you to go with him, chances are the closest he’s been to Italy is an expensive local Italian bistro. Likewise, if he claims to be friends with important people, then he should know specific, personal information about them. He should be able to prove his dealings with them. Perhaps by showing invitations to fundraising dinners, gala events, or ticket stubs for premier events. Even better, he should be taking you to these types of events, unless there’s a good reason to be discreet and avoid public attention or notice of you.
He has a brand new Maserati. You’ve seen it at your first date, and it doesn’t have dealer plates or temporary tags, so he’s not just using a weekend try before you buy thing nor could he have just bought it today, likely to return it before having to actually pay for it. Does this mean he’s wealthy? Perhaps. Or perhaps he lives with his parents in the basement, and he’s leasing his fancy car and it’s his only grand expenditure and claim to higher living. So, he can afford to pay $1000 a month on a lease, but what does he have after that’s paid? What you’re really looking for is property, improvements on the property, and property location. A penthouse downtown along with that fast car is a better sign of a rich Sugar Daddy. If he makes a claim to owning a particular property, you can easily verify if he or a company that he has a controlling interest in is in fact the owner by checking with the appropriate County Tax Assessor’s office. Owning unimproved land in the middle of nowhere is not a sign of wealth, either. Any land owned should be already improved upon, in the process of being improved upon, or he should be able to show you his plans for making improvements to the land in the near future, in which case he should have architectural drawings or plans, building permits, and contracts with construction companies.
One way of telling whether you’re with a real life Sugar Daddy or a wanna-be Splenda Daddy is his attitude on spending money when you’re with him. A real Sugar Daddy will tell you to order what you want and mean it. He will, also, order the best that a restaurant has to offer. If you’re on a date with a Sugar Daddy who’s ordering water, no appetizer, chicken or pasta, questioning the waitstaff about discounts, specials, sales, or exact pricing… Well, he might be on a restricted or special diet and a health nut and OCD, or he might need to be concerned with just how much he’s spending. A truly wealthy Sugar Daddy will take you to places that don’t even have the prices on the menu because you should only go there if you don’t care about the cost. Likewise, if he offers to take you shopping, it won’t be to Walmart, Kohl’s, or Macy’s. With a real Sugar Daddy you won’t have to worry about whether you’ve got real Gucci or Prada products.
A real Sugar Daddy is a gentleman and looking for more than just a warm body in his bed. Any girl can hike her skirt and spread her legs, but a Sugar Baby offers far more than mere sexual gratification. If that’s all a man is looking for, there are much easier, less expensive ways to find it. You should always remember that a Sugar Baby is not a prostitute or an escort. You’re not just a booty call. You should never let any man, Sugar Daddy or not, treat you like less than you are or like a tawdry hooker. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve the utmost respect for sex workers, and I’m not here to slut shame, anyone. However, they are far different from the Sugar Baby lifestyle and expectations, even if not everyone has the wit to understand the difference. If a POT SD is pressuring you for sex, provide him the number of a local escort service that is more likely to offer what he’s looking for and keep searching for your real Sugar Daddy, who will treat you right.
Don’t be afraid to ask for proof to back up anything that a POT Sugar Daddy claims. Don’t be put off by a charming smile and phrases like, “Why would I lie? or “Don’t you believe me?” or “Trust me.” A successful Sugar Daddy might be modest about his wealth and success, but he shouldn’t outright refuse to talk about it. He should know already that he’s going to be expected to prove his worth, and there’s nothing wrong with a pretty young Sugar Baby insisting on it.