“Sugaring” isn’t exactly a new phenomenon, but it is only within the past few years that it has become a widely acknowledged part of society. Also known as “sugar dating”, sugaring is an arrangement by which a woman assumes the role of sugar baby to an older man, who in turn plays the part of a sugar daddy.
Sugar babies are typically young and attractive women that provide a range of personal services to their sugar daddies in exchange for financial support. Many sugar babies provide services that could best be described as a “girlfriend experience”, essentially serving as a sort of girlfriend to their sugar daddies. In addition to playing the role of girlfriend, sugar babies may also be expected to be available for social functions, and to generally serve as a companion to their sugar daddy.
As you may have guessed, there are about as many different types of sugar babies as there are specific types of relationships within the sugar dating sphere. Different women have different reasons for becoming sugar babies, and there is no single type of woman that is more likely to become a sugar baby than any other. Here we take a look at ten different sugar babies, the reasons why they have undertaken the lifestyle, and how their decisions have impacted on other areas of their lives.
Kyla is a relative rarity in the sugar dating world. While most other women struggle to come to terms with being a sugar baby, Kyla took to her newfound role like a fish to water.
“I kind of surprised myself with how quickly I fell into the routine of being a sugar baby,” she said. “I have a couple of friends that wrestled with the decision for weeks before taking the plunge, but I didn’t really go through a similar period of handwringing. It was as if I made the decision to become a sugar baby, reinforced the commitment in my head, and then just went for it!”
It was perhaps helpful that the 27-year-old has always had a confident and self-assured streak. “Even from a young age, I seemed to always know what I wanted and what I had to do to go about getting it,” Kyla said. “I saw sugaring as a way to support myself and have fun in a way that conformed to my lifestyle, and I didn’t waste any time belaboring the decision.”
Of course, Kyla didn’t she just jump into the deep end without considering all the implications. “I did give a lot of thought to how being a sugar baby would affect the people in my life, particularly my family,” she said. “But after my parents gave me the green light, there was nothing standing in my way of doing what I wanted.”
Shania’s story is a bit more typical. Like Kyla, she was eager to become a sugar baby and signed up at a popular sugar dating service as soon as she turned 20. “I had already been thinking of becoming a sugar baby since I was 17,” she said, “and had checked out a bunch of sugar daddy websites, I had done a bit of modeling throughout high school, and I knew that there were loads of men out there who were willing to pay women for their company.”
Shania’s first experience wasn’t as smooth as she had envisioned. “I’ll admit I had my share of less-than-perfect experiences,” she said. “But that was mostly because I really didn’t know how to assert myself and to put myself across in the way that I wanted. After I gained more confidence and learned to tell prospective sugar daddies what I expected out of the arrangement, I began to relax and enjoy myself.”
As it turns out, it’s a good thing that Shania didn’t give up. “As I got deeper into the sugar dating lifestyle, I realized that a lot of men were simply looking for someone to devote their time and attention to. The guy I’m with, Roger, is a perfect example. He simply wanted someone he could go out with without having to go through the hassle of ‘regular’ dating. If I had given up after my initial experiences, I probably wouldn’t have met someone as nice as Roger!”
Debbie is another atypical sugar baby, but for another reason. Unlike Kyla who decided she wanted to become a sugar baby and found herself ideally suited to the role, Debbie somehow knew that she was destined to become a sugar baby.
“Ever since I was a little girl, I felt that what I wanted out of life was someone to take care of me,” she confided. “I was always close to my dad, and he doted on my mom and my two other sisters as well as myself. When he passed away just as I was about to go to college, I was absolutely devastated. Here was a man that had dedicated his entire life to taking care of us. To find him suddenly gone was a tremendous blow.”
Debbie had another close relative who helped influence her decision to become a sugar baby. “I had a favorite aunt on my mother’s side, and I really looked up to her while I was growing up,” she said. “She wasn’t that much older than me, but she seemed so worldly and confident that I just wanted to be like her in every way.”
“My aunt wasn’t exactly a sugar baby, but she did have a boyfriend who was a much older man. Kent was a handsome man in his 40s, and he was absolutely smitten with my aunt. Right then and there, I made a decision that I would find a sugar daddy to meet who would take care of me the way that Kent did my aunt and the way my dad did my mom…and I did!”
Crystal makes no secret of being a firebrand and she makes sure that anyone who wanted her as a sugar baby would know it. “I’ve always been a bit of a troublemaker,” she laughed. “I decided in my early teens that I liked hanging around boys, and I made it clear to them that I wasn’t a wilting flower!”
Even so, Crystal wasn’t about to jump into bed with just anyone. “Although I liked boys, I was definitely not a pushover, nor was I easy,” she said. “Anyone who wants to be with me simply has to learn to put up with my moods, my attitude, and my strong headedness.”
“It wasn’t that I was into playing games,” she continued. “I just knew that guys tended to take advantage of girls that they saw as ‘weak’, ‘needy’, and ‘easy’, and I wasn’t about to give them the satisfaction. If they wanted to be with me, they had to show me just how far they were willing to put up with me.”
Crystal adopts pretty much the same attitude with sugar dating today. “Anyone who thinks that they can control me or push me around just because they are paying the bills is sorely mistaken,” she said. “I make it clear to any prospective sugar daddy that I have very definite boundaries within the sugar dating relationship. If anyone is willing to accept me for what I am, then I know that he is someone special.”
You’ve probably heard stories of the strong and independent sugar baby who won’t take any nonsense from anybody. You know the type: the world-wise, savvy sort who fits the role of fierce and independent woman to a ‘tee’. In some ways, Naomi could be said to be that type, although there is a lot more to her than her exterior would suggest.
“‘All-business Naomi’, that’s me,” she said with just the barest hint of a smile. A ravishing brunette in her late 20s, she looks to be just barely in her 20s. With the chiseled good looks of a high-end fashion model and the slightest touch of a European accent, Naomi has proven herself more than equal to any man who has had the nerve to propose being her sugar daddy.
“I equate what I do to being a sort of high-end “partner on-demand”, she said. “I have no illusions about being anyone’s girlfriend or lover, and I am definitely not the one to call if you are looking for a “girlfriend experience”. I provide companionship–whether in public, in private, or both–and nothing more.
Tamika’s story is a more familiar one to anyone who has known his share of sugar babies. A charming and fresh-faced honey blonde with natural good-looks, Tamika is only playing the part of a sugar baby for as long as it suits her purposes.
“Don’t get me wrong: I do enjoy being a sugar baby,” Tamika said. “Being paid for my time, the fabulous gifts, the fancy dinners, the nights out, and all the other perks–what’s not to like?”
“But I do have plans for the long-term, and I don’t see myself being a sugar baby forever. The way I see it, being a sugar baby enables me to live a comfortable life and to have fun, all while I’m working towards achieving my career goals.”
Not all sugar babies are pining for a life outside of the sugar dating world. Ashley is one sugar baby that is quite comfortable being what she is, and she has no plans of leaving the lifestyle any time soon.
“I absolutely love being a sugar baby!” she gushes. “It’s always been my dream to have a rich and handsome older man pamper and spoil me with gifts, clothes, and cash, and that is exactly what I have achieved. You could say that I’m pretty much living the dream.”
Kim isn’t sure how long she is going to go on being a sugar baby, but she isn’t quite ready to give up on the lifestyle just yet. A 29-year-old redhead who looks much younger than her age, she has been a regular at various sugar baby websites for five years. During that time, she has been with four sugar daddies, all of whom she has fond memories of.
“I really don’t have a lot to complain about,” she said. “Especially when comparing myself to other sugar babies I’ve known. I’ve been kind of lucky in that most of the men I’ve hooked up with were really nice and generous, and I could easily see myself settling down into a longer term relationship with any one of them.”
That being said, Kim knows that sugaring isn’t forever…at least not for her. “I still see myself as a somewhat old-fashioned and romantic type, and I refuse to accept that being a sugar baby is the end of the line for me. I’m still holding out for the right guy to sweep me off my feet. If it turns out to be one of my sugar daddies, I’ll take it where I can get it!”
One thing that nearly all sugar babies have in common is the realization that all this is bound to end at some point. Oftentimes, it’s not a matter of ‘if’, but ‘when’.
For Stacey, the choice was pretty much out of her hands. Having been a sugar baby throughout much of her 20s and into her early 30s, she realized that time was running out, and that she had to make some serious changes in her life.
“I came to a point when I had to be honest with myself,” she said. “I knew that I was rapidly approaching my ‘past sell date’, and that I couldn’t go on being a sugar baby much longer. Thankfully, I had always been careful to put away some of the money I had made over the years, and I was able to put that toward a small business.”
Does she have any regrets about having been a sugar baby? “Not at all!” she said. “It was a lot of fun for a while. But anyone who becomes a sugar baby with the idea that it will last forever is maybe just a little bit naïve and unrealistic. You aren’t going to stay young and beautiful forever, so my advice would be to always have a plan for a graceful exit.”
Not all endings are quite so steeped in reality. Trish’s story has a fairytale ending that would make most every sugar baby envious. After having gone through a string of sugar dating relationships in her 20s, she turned 30 with a definite reason to celebrate.
“Tom was everything I had ever hoped for in a sugar daddy,” she gushed. “Our relationship had been going pretty strong, and there really wasn’t anything more I could ask for. So when he told me that he had fallen in love with me and wanted to settle down as a ‘real’ couple, I was completely in shock and awe!”
Trish has this to share for sugar babies holding out for true romance: “The reality is that finding true love in a sugar dating relationship is the exception rather than the rule. But you can increase your chances of ending up with the right guy by choosing who you get into a relationship with. Don’t settle for just any sugar daddy out there and hold on to your dignity and self-respect. Learn to value yourself and you may just find someone who values you in the same way as well!”