Most single young women have been raised to be mindful of their safety in this day and age. But it can be tempting when in the excitement of a new relationship to throw caution to the wind. But you must keep in mind that just you have a man on a sugar dating site, it does not mean that he is a real, legitimate Sugar Daddy. But how can you tell a real Sugar Daddy from a fake one? One that is a real threat and one that is just looking for a hookup? With a little advice, you’ll easily be able to figure it out.
Of course, some scams or fakes will be obvious right away. The most obvious is anyone whose first messages include requests for sexual favors, outright lewd comments and compliments, or other inappropriate requests. These should not be responded to, blocked, and/or reported if there’s an option for doing so. Other immediate red flags include offers to view a particular website or requests to call a toll free number or might look like one of those Craigslist scammers with a request for a list of personal information. Other creepers might employ tactics you’ve seen elsewhere, like unsolicited dick pics, requests for naked photos, nudes, or naughty pics, and requests for sexting. While sugar dating sites are intended for helping Sugar Daddies and Sugar Babies find each other, determined creepers, scammers, and general pervs can still find their way in, if they are willing to pay the fees. You should report all such abuses of the site at once. Keep a log of these as often they will create hundreds of fake profiles, which often have a similar profile picture, about me information, or tagline. You should, also, be leary of contact from men claiming to be someone important from another country, such as a general in Siberia, who then needs you to contact another man in the U.S. for funds transfers or who suggest that you come to their country. Also, while not everyone has Master’s level English and typing skills, if it their messages make you wonder if English is their first language (and their profile claims they are from the U.S.), there’s a good chance it’s just a scammer.
Some sugar dating websites have a built in verification process, but if you do not have the benefit of such a service, there are still ways to check on the validity of your potential Sugar Daddy’s information. While you can try finding a legitimate free background check via Google, you’re better off with a paid service like peoplelooker.com. This particular site offers unlimited searches for $28.42 a month or 3 months for $59.67. This is about average for running a good background check on a Sugar Daddy. Running a background check should allow you to find their contact information, home address, relatives, associated people, criminal and civil court cases, bankruptcies, and related social media accounts like LinkedIn, Facebook, and Twitter. From there you can use that information to check on other claims that they may have made.
Before or after you run a background check, it’s a good idea to spend some time getting to know your POT SD through emails, messages, texts, chats, and most importantly, through some sort of video chat. Most messenger programs have an option for this, these days, including Facebook messenger, AIM, Yahoo Messenger, and programs like Skype and Facetime. If a Sugar Daddy refuses to do this, there’s a good chance that he has something to hide. If he hesitates to do so, he may have good reason, like needing to be in a more private location or a better time. However, if he offers no good reason or delays indefinitely, wanting to meet without having a video chat to confirm identities, then he may not be such a good candidate after all.
Keep copies of all of your conversations and make sure that you verify things that he mentions, such as where he works and lives. If he has mentioned traveling, ask detailed questions about the places that he claims to have traveled. While he may have been too busy for any actual sight seeing, he should still know something of interest or note of the places. After all, why mention them if he has nothing to say about them? Even if you know nothing of the places he has been doing a search on the information he has provided should let you know if he was telling the truth. When speaking with him via video chat or in person, you should take note of his facial expressions and any hesitations or signs of discomfort with your questions. Wandering eyes, pauses, slight frowns, fidgeting, and even smiling too much can be signs that a man is fibbing. If you observe him long enough, you may be able to detect other signs or tells. Everyone has them, if you’re observant enough.
Of course, no matter how thorough the background check or how much a POT SD might seem to check out, if your instincts tell you something is off, even if there’s no logic, no rhyme or reason for it: trust your instincts. Just because there’s no criminal record found on a background check, doesn’t mean he hasn’t done anything questionable. It could mean he just hasn’t been caught or hasn’t been convicted of anything. So you can’t be too careful with your safety. If you feel uncomfortable through online interactions or even if nothing about this Sugar Daddy made your skin prickle until you met in person, drop contact politely but firmly. Even if your suspicions are unfounded and incorrect, if you’re not sure or uncomfortable, you will be unable to develop trust and a satisfactory rapport with your rich older man. Sooner or later he will pick up on this and be hurt or offended or, possibly, understanding, but either way, your relationship won’t likely be for long. It’s much better to hold out for someone that you can build a solid relationship with and be comfortable being around without nagging worries.