A lot has been written about the early stages of sugar dating and how it is the most crucial stage of the relationship between a sugar daddy and a sugar baby. The start of the relationship is indeed an important phase, and it is definitely worthy of considerable focus and attention.
But the middle stage–what we like to call the intermediate stage–is equally important as well. This is when the relationship has progressed past its initial heady stage, when the sugar daddy and the sugar baby live out the nuts and bolts of their life together. At this point in the relationship, things come into much clearer focus, and there is little possibility of the true nature of the relationship being sugar-coated by the early infatuation and passion. In other words, the intermediate stage of the relationship is when the work truly begins.
Far more has been written about the end of the relationship–or ending the relationship, to be precise–than the middle stages. But the work that sugar daddies and sugar babies put into maintaining the relationship during the intermediate stage is absolutely crucial in determining the longevity of the relationship. By giving this stage the attention and focus it warrants, any problems that may bring about the end of the relationship may be avoided.
It might be helpful to think of the middle of the relationship as the ‘hump’ stage, where there is a significant obstacle to overcome. When you and your sugar baby initially hook up, you will probably be so infatuated with each other that any nagging problems can easily be swept under the rug. You can therefore coast through the early stages of the relationship fairly easily, without having to deal with any major relationship issues.
But that harmonious and rosy stage can’t go on forever. Over time, what initially seemed like trivial or inconsequential issues may fester and boil over, resulting in major relationship problems. Over time, you may find the nature of the relationship change considerably, and you may not get the sane enjoyment and satisfaction that you derived from it at the start.
It is actually normal for any relationship to go through a period of change and even of upheaval. People don’t exist in a vacuum, and it is too much to expect a relationship–no matter how seemingly ‘perfect’ it may be–to remain happy and fulfilling indefinitely. You might think of a relationship as a living thing that requires care and preventive maintenance in order to keep it in optimal condition.
This is where the work comes in. Both partners will have to commit to putting in the requisite time and attention in making sure that the relationship continues to fill the needs of both partners. This can be done without any clear approach in mind, although it might be better to draw out a general plan of action.
When trying to solve any problem, the first step should be making an assessment of the circumstances. Where is your relationship at right now? Are you in the kind of situation that you envisioned at the start? Is this where you want to be for the foreseeable future? These and other questions in a similar vein will have to be answered in order to determine whether or not the relationship is working out for you.
It is important to be as honest and as thorough as you can be in your assessment of the relationship. Now is not the time to sugar coat things or to sweep certain issues under the rug. Confront any and all potential issues right now, and your relationship will be all the better for it.
After you have identified any problem areas, now comes the time to propose solutions. A fair bit of brainstorming will be in order at this point, with both of you working on the goal of finding a solution that will be acceptable to everyone concerned.
Don’t be too quick to discard any suggestions or possible courses of action, no matter how unlikely or objectionable as they may seem. At this point, you are simply trying to put as many ideas on the table as possible so you can judge their relative merits later on.
It might be helpful to always think of your partner’s concerns when making a suggestion. A course of action that works for you but not for your sugar baby will do little to benefit the relationship as a whole, so always consider your partner’s feelings and point of view.
Communication is essential throughout every stage of the relationship. It is just as crucial during the intermediate period as it is at the start, as it can help nip any potential problem issues in the bud. Think of it as preventive maintenance. The time to talk about any problems is when they are just starting to make their effects felt–not when they have already deteriorated to the point wherein the relationship is affected adversely. Wait too long and you may not be able to get the relationship back on track.
One of the most common mistakes that partners in a relationship make with regard to communication is using it as an opportunity to air their own side exclusively. While communication does indeed open up an opportunity for you to let your thoughts and feelings be known, also be aware of the need to hear your partner out. Let the communication flow in both directions, and you will be better able to come to a mutually agreeable solution to whatever ails the relationship.
The intermediate stage of the relationship is also a great time to renew your commitment to each other. It doesn’t have to be all about trying to solve a problem or even trying to deal with some issue that needs fixing. Take the time to touch base, see if you are still on the same page, and to renew your commitment to each other. Doing so might just pay off considerably in the long-term.