We all tend to be a people pleaser when we are first starting out in the sugar dating world. We want these potential Sugar Daddies to like us enough to find some chemistry, take us out on dates, and achieve some financial help in the process. We want to form a solid mutually beneficial arrangement and keep meeting up. However, not all kinds of Sugar Baby / Sugar Daddy arrangements are fine. You need to enter a sugar relationship that allows you to enjoy dating someone you truly like, fits your interests and dreams and is the answer to your needs. For this, you have to learn how to avoid making the wrong type of arrangement.
In order to be able to avoid the wrong relationship, you need to first know very well how a Sugar Baby / Sugar Daddy relationship works. A typical Sugar Daddy is a bid older than most Sugar Babies and might have different interests in life. The most common attribute a Sugar Daddy has is his high income or wealth. Most of them are usually married, but for some reason they look to spice up their lives with a very hot, discrete mistress. The typical Sugar Baby is a good looking girl who is also very intelligent. A Sugar Baby / Sugar Daddy arrangement typically starts online with the help of various specialized dating sites.
The amount of money a Sugar Baby asks for depends directly on how often a Sugar Daddy wants to see her and how much a Sugar Daddy earns. The monthly allowance money is paid in person and, often, in untraceable cash or preloaded gift cards. However, a Sugar Baby may, also, ask or receive other benefits, such as gifts and traveling. Depending on the arrangement, sex might be always expected when they meet or might be negotiable and optional. However, besides sexual favors or cash, these sugar relationships need to be based on honesty, mutual respect, and discretion. When it comes to duration, the relationships can last for months or even for years.
In order to make such a good kind of sugar relationship work, here are some tips on how to avoid the wrong type of arrangement:
This just means in reality cash for a sexual favor even if it may sound like a type of sugar arrangement. It is recommended to not be fooled and reject this kind or arrangement in case that a Sugar Daddy tries this with you. You don’t want to fall victim, even if he is an attractive and younger Sugar Daddy. As a general rule to remember, it is not advisable to ever sleep with a Sugar Daddy on the first date. You should be also worry if you hear the words “test run”. This is an obvious red flag to a sugar relationship, since you are not to be treated as a second hand car that needs a check up. You are a sophisticated, classy woman not looking to be mistaken for an escort but rather looking for the benefits of adding a successful man into your life. Another indicator that this might be the wrong type of sugar arrangement is his over eagerness. If he is asking you to date him at night just after the first one or two messages, then he is most likely looking to pay for play.
In case that a potential Sugar Daddy is asking what is your rate for a night, then it seems that he is looking only for a physical engagement. No gentleman would ever use that kind of question with a lady. There is no excuse, even if he might be looking just for a short term arrangement. A man who is labeling you with a price is not the same thing as an allowance. An allowance is not meant to label your worth but it is rather an agreed upon amount for your time and to cover your expenses. It is not meant to be a price tag on your favors.
While most sugar dating sites have an option for secret photos, and there’s a certain amount of presumption that these will be NSFW type photos, anyone directly inquiring about or demanding nude, naked, or naughty photos should be seen as suspect. Providing these to someone without an existing arrangement, meaning you’ve received payments, is no guarantee that an arrangement is forthcoming. He might be a random perv masquerading as a rich Sugar Daddy. Nor should you trade pictures for money from a Sugar Daddy that you’ve just met. Who knows what he’ll do with the pictures or where they might resurface to your embarrassment. If a POT SD is persistent about receiving nude photos, try sending him a pic of a nude guinea pig and then block and report him!
When it comes to arrangements, it is never a good sign if a Sugar Daddy is bringing up the topic of sex too soon. Sex might happen, if you are meeting the right Sugar Daddy and the chemistry is there. But getting there should be something you both want to occur and it should unfold naturally. However, in case that you are looking only for something purely platonic, you should ensure that your profile is stating this clearly, so only Sugar Daddies with similar interests will contact you. While many assume that sugar dating is a cover for prostitution, you should be quick to educate people otherwise. Sugar Babies are meant to be companions, not just sex dolls, and a real Sugar Daddy will be looking for a real Sugar Baby and will want a real relationship.
It should go without saying that you should not enter into or continue a SD/SB arrangement with anyone who hits you or threatens to hit you. However, abuse can take many forms and most of it doesn’t leave a single visible mark. The childhood adage about sticks and stones is a gross lie we tell ourselves or tell others to pretend we don’t care, but words can cut deeper than any blade. Do not let anyone convince you that you are worthless, stupid, selfish, or dirty. Narcissistic and abusive people seek to tear you down and elevate themselves, while a real Sugar Daddy will want to encourage you to be the best Sugar Baby and woman that you can be. He will be interested in seeing you become better and stronger, not weaker and unsuccessful.